Commencement Speech
In the “Commencement Speech” the author’s argument is that in society everyone is expected to meet a certain expectation given to them by their friends and family. She explains that these high expectations can never be met. Everyone must accept that and learn to accept themselves and their imperfections.
In today’s world there are many high expectations that are expected for boys and girls. Girls want a guy that can make them feel secure because they want to know they are loved. While boys want an attractive girl that doesn’t make them feel inferior. Girls know that they are expected to look pretty and attractive. These high expectations for girls are constantly shown on billboard, TV, and magazines. However, it is not realistic for every girl to be attractive and meet the expectations portrayed in the media , so they have to accept their imperfection because there will always be a girl that will be prettier than them. Boys know that girls want to feel secure and have an attractive boyfriend. However, not every boy is attractive, so boys have to accept their imperfections also.
Accepting imperfections causes many problems with someone’s self-esteem. When girls realize that they can’t meet a guy’s expectation of them they start to feel unworthy. This unworthy feels makes them compare themselves to other and girls causing them to feel unworthy again. Some girls will try to fix their imperfection by changing the way they look. They change the way they look by doing things like plastic surgery, putting on makeup, dieting to lose weight and etc. All these things are done in the hopes that they can finally meet this false high expectation. When a guy knows that they can’t meet a girl’s expectation they start to do things like go to the gym and take better care of themselves. They do this also in hopes to meet this false expectation.
Not all imperfections can be fixed. In life someone has to come to the realization that they are not perfect no matter how hard they try. The author talks about how she strived to be the perfect student and lawyer. She tried to fit in with her peers by acting the way she thought they expected her to act. However, she later gave up her persona of being a perfect student and lawyer for her children. At the end of the day she no longer strived for being perfect because she became secure in herself and her imperfections. Her imperfections no longer held her back and she embraced them. She abandon the thinking of being perfect because she didn’t want her children to think that they had to be perfect as well. This way of thinking must be realized because if not an individual will always try to strive for something that is not achievable.
Imperfections are not easy to accept because everyone wants to be perfect. However, being perfect is not possible so everyone must learn that they are not perfect, but they can be perfect at being themselves.
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